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Where The Power Comes From
When “they” talk about self-love, they’ll tell you about bathtubs by candlelight and special dates you take yourself on and sips of tea in front of rainy windowsills. They make love sound like a bizarre fever dream where everything is wonderful.
But love is not that fever dream…
Because part of loving yourself is knowing what you desire and the shadow part of loving yourself is seeing the evidence you’ve collected of just how unworthy you believed you were…
The pinnacle of self-love is not endless ecstasy.
It is a heartbreaking process of undoing the life your unloved self built, brick by unworthy brick.
— Francesqua Darling
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Very smart empathetically impaired people can be extremely “successful” at whatever they do, but typically leave a trail of damage to people and everything else in their path. I’ve long said it is much easier to gain power and control if you are not inhibited by conscience or ethics. It is why there is a much higher percentage of sociopaths in positions of power than in the general population — this is true in politics, business, organizations of all kinds and it shows up in families…
— David Eisenberg
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