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The Missing Love
Love is the only reality and it is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation.
— Rabindranath Tagore
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There is no question that fathers play an important role in their daughters lives. An involved father is crucial for psychological, behavioural and general health and well-being. Having a related father figure helps a daughter as she needs his wisdom, experience, imparting of skills and kindly guidance. When fathers are actively present in a loving nurturing relationship, daughters have greater self confidence, perform better in school and are able to avoid risky behaviour.
The father is ideally an anchor, giving the daughter a foundation, a solid point of reference. Yet when absent, her experiences of self are achieved against the background of loss. This influences how she does or does not cope with the inevitable vicissitudes experienced throughout life…
The mirroring of father to daughter is made up of his empathic responses to her needs, wishes, experiences, behaviours and gives legitimacy, validation and a sense of worth.
~ Susan E. Schwartz, The Absent Father Effect on Daughters.
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Mystics say: “we are all just walking each other home.” Mystics are right. We should trust them more…
