The Dream of your Ancestors is You

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Wisdom from Chief Arvol Looking Horse is the author of White Buffalo Teachings:

“Each of us is put here in this time and this place to personally decide the future of humankind. Did you think the Creator would create unnecessary people in a time of such terrible danger?

Know that you yourself are essential to this world. Understand both the blessing and the burden of that. You yourself are desperately needed to save the soul of this world. Did you think you were put here for something less? In a Sacred Hoop of Life, there is no beginning and no ending.”


A family’s black sheep are actually liberators of their family tree.
Family members who don’t adapt to family rules or traditions, those who constantly try to revolutionize beliefs.
Those who choose roads contrary to the well-beaten paths of family lines, those who are criticized, judged and even rejected.
These are called to free the family from repetitive patterns that frustrate entire generations.
These so-called ′′ black sheep “, the ones that don’t fit, the ones that howl with rebellion, actually repair, detox and create new thriving branches in their family tree.
Countless unreal desires, broken dreams or frustrated talents of our ancestors manifest themselves through this revolt.
For inertia, the family tree will do anything to maintain the neutral and toxic course of its trunk, which will make the rebel’s task difficult and conflicting.
Stop doubting and take care of your rarity ′′ like the most precious flower in your tree “.
You are the dream of all your ancestors.

— Bert Hellinger

My sister once told me that my father had pronounced me “a strange one.” Her reply was that I was their strange one. My family was full of black sheep and breakaway eccentrics, but I wasn’t rebelling, I was just following my introverted literary and artistic interests. Those interests carried me away from my family of origin until we hardly recognized each other. I was criticised for always having my nose in a book, for being impractical and dreamy.

But that was my true nature then and it’s my true nature now, almost eight decades into my earthly adventure. I like being this way. I have the feeling that I’m always learning something. I do sometimes wish I was a bit more practical, more capable of that realism that is so highly esteemed in our culture, but it is what it is, as they say.

My natural devotion to the beauties and mysteries of life will no doubt keep me alive and well occupied up to the final curtain. I live with many more questions than answers and I prefer it that way. When I come upon a new insight or slant on things, I stop to pick it up and turn it over to enjoy its facets. I like ideas, especially if they’re new to me — not that I adopt them or necessarily subscribe to them. I’m just enjoying their existence, especially if they add to the mystery and the questions I have.

What I don’t want to do is collect a lot of final conclusions about reality. There always seems to be more to learn about “reality.” The quotations at the beginning of this little piece raise the question of why we are alive at this time. Do we have a role to play in the evolution of the world? I like the idea that if we didn’t we wouldn’t be here.

I also like the idea that whatever role we play, it must be played as who we truly are in our most basic self. That idea affirms you. It affirms your truth. You are required to be your best self in this drama. And the drama itself is a life-or-death cliffhanger. You are being asked to step up and save the world by contributing what only you can contribute.

An idea like that carries meaning, something that gives your existence a sense of high purpose, no matter how humble your circumstances. Writers take note. You have an opportunity, maybe even a calling, to plant seminal insights into the cultural soil.

As the world tries to assess which way to go now, we need all the help we can get. People with words and ideas can offer a great deal.

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I occasionally write fiction and also about creativity, loving, language learning and travel. I’m a longtime painter and reader.

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