‘Women’s “silence,” the wiping out of their narrative and creative work from all historical records, has been one of the most grievous patriarchal sins, so deadening because women’s culture has been rendered invisible and women know themselves only through the words of the male. A safe place in which to tell their stories, and to be heard, is a healing place.’
~ Elinor Gadon, The Once and Future Goddess.
Women all over the world carry an impressive burden. Living in a paternalistic paradigm isolates them, they meet incomprehension constantly, they are in effect living in a foreign culture. They can’t communicate themselves fully to others because language doesn’t seem to have the words and concepts necessary to the task. Because this is true for women, it is also true for men.
In this lopsided mental landscape, we all try to live a “normal” life. It’s laughable. Stereotypes swirl around while we just try to create a life built on who we really are.
I’ve accepted that I’m one of those “soft” men, non athletic, artsy, poetic hands and reticent manner, although I remember hoping to develop an acceptable virility growing up. I wanted one of those outsized burly bodies of the kids with German names I went to school with. I admired those broad hands and big bones. But in my family, we were scrawny kids who grew into scrawny adults.
Choosing art wasn’t exactly encouraged by my Texas upbringing. It was un-masculine, a woman’s work, or rather a woman’s “hobby.”
People are all kinds of masculine and feminine, after all. There are infinite degrees and kinds of genders. A culture with two categories that everyone has to somehow choose and pretend to fit in to is stupid, in my humble opinion.
I want to say I admire the strength, fortitude and inventiveness of women faced with this reality. Not only that, but their ability to bring joy and beauty into the world, their instinctive understanding of children amazes me sometimes. Their helpfulness, their sense of collaboration without needing to dominate make their contributions basic to the success of many enterprises.
I have a lot of admiration for women and their spirit of world creation. I think we would all be better off if they had greater voice in business and world affairs.
I realize that there are women, raised in our anti feminist society, who have taken on the narrow masculine view of things. We are all unconsciously conditioned by our culture, after all.
We are due a correction in our masculine/feminine balance, and our ease with how nature expresses these things. I believe this is coming to pass now.
- Anima Fire is my publication.