Marc Chagall

“We live in a fantasy world, a world of illusion. The great task in life is to find reality…but given the state of the world, is it wise?”

— Iris Murdoch

“The stars are like letters that inscribe themselves at every moment in the sky. Everything in the world is full of signs. All events are coordinated. All things depend on each other. Everything breathes together.”

― Plotinus 205–270 AD


“All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”

— Tahereh Mafi


Love is the bridge, the transfer of energy between form and formless, matter and spirit. Love holds the universe together.

— Ram Dass


“To arrive where you are, to get from where you are not,
You must go by a way wherein there is no ecstasy.
In order to arrive at what you do not know
You must go by a way which is the way of ignorance.
In order to possess what you do not possess
You must go by the way of dispossession.
In order to arrive at what you are not
You must go through the way in which you are not.
And what you do not know is the only thing you know
And what you own is what you do not own
And where you are is where you are not.”

— T.S. Eliot — Four Quartets

Eliot seems to believe that you find your way to love, light and joy you must go through darkness, confusion and being lost. My own trajectory presents a confirmation that some of us have to try everything else before we realize our mistake. The fantasy world I lived in had too much need to be somebody and look good doing it. That’s a young man’s fantasy, which led me to try a dozen ways to be in the world that didn’t fit me.

The main question in life is do you, can you, love. That is the main question that living in a body poses to everyone. We easily get lost when we are inducted into the survival games of our “civilization.” We miss the point of living because we develop survival skills to the detriment of loving ourselves, our lives and the people around us.

Doing what you love in life is considered a rare privilege. Often we are faced with the prospect of going through the motions of some work just so we can keep body and soul together. Love doesn’t come into it. We shrink our hearts just to live in the world we have created. It’s called being “realistic.”

I guess there’s nothing more unrealistic than basing your life on love, which is why the teachings of the avatars are so commonly disregarded. American Christianity has been usurped by gun nuts and racists. Nothing could be further from the teachings of Jesus.

There is an actual and tremendous resistance to love in our society. Humans have been wrestling with this question of love throughout our history. Most of us still have to discover how basic love is to any meaningful life. We have yet to touch the wellspring of existence.

The way we have organized our society by basing it on fear, competition and slavery by other names means we are obliged to find our own way. Our social norms constitute a wild goose chase that deplete and devour our creative energies in the effort to survive. But unless we stay very close to our own heart’s desires, we’ll get lost.

The world humans have created promotes fragmented and disconnected people. It’s our individual task, I think, to reconnect ourselves to love however we can, finding a way to the path that puts us closer to the source of all life.

I occasionally write fiction and also about creativity, loving, language learning and travel. I’m a longtime painter and reader.

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