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Death Of A Friendship
What does “I am here” mean? It means, “I exist. I’m really here, because I’m not lost in the past, in the future, in my thinking, in the noise inside, in the noise outside. I’m here.” In order to really be, you have to be free from the thinking, free from the anxieties, free from the fear, free from the longing. “I am free” is a strong statement, because the truth is, many of us are not free. We don’t have the freedom that allows us to hear, and to see, and to just be.
- Thich Nhat Hanh
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“The blind spot in the polarity scene:
Telling women to be more feminine and surrendered without any offer of security.
Traditional gender roles included marriage and children. Today new age men can request the feminine surrender that used to come with total security, but without offering to provide that security.
… It is a byproduct of modern contraception and the subsequent ‘see how it goes’ sexual relationships. It’s cherry picking, recreational and deeply ungrounded. Traditionally, men are passive fathers. It is also, regardless, not the preferred character for a woman attraction wise, because the maiden persona is pre impregnation. She’s pubescent, available, pregnable. As women now experience serial monogamy, they are expected or expecting themselves to be this maiden character again and…
